Sir Frederic Bartlett, and Jean Piaget both discussed the concept of the schema, essentially sets our minds create that help us understand our world. To cut to the chase, this is a case of two schemata, which we'll call Set F and Set N.
Most of us who are adults possess these two sets, which are "things we theoretically could have sex with" (The Fuckable Set) and "things we would not have sex with, ever." (The Non-Fuckable Set)
Let's take, for example, the Set F and Set N of a healthy, heterosexual male:
Set F= [Women]
Set N=[Men, Children, Farm animals, Women who are filthy, etc.]
Most of us can wrap our heads around this type of sexual attraction schema, even if we don't share it. We can actually fill Set N up for almost anyone, because even if your attraction is to women, there are women who you will not find sexually attractive, maybe for good reason, maybe for bad reasons... For example, I generally like women, and there is a current commercial with a woman that I think looks like a bag of antlers, and like she'd rattle if you had sex with her...and if you go to any youtube posting of it, you'll find people saying she's gorgeous. I think she looks like an insectoid with a grossly distended head and pointy cheekbones that would stab you if you kissed her ear, but enough about that... clearly, this woman is in F for a lot of people, but she's in N for me.
In general, my set of Ns and Fs look like this, and since I'm not republican, I'll add that they have to be human.:
F=[Human Men, Human Women]
N=[Not human things, immature human things, things that look like immature human things.]
My (since reconciled) friend the pan-sexual had a problem with me because I tend to see androgyny and associate it with immature human things.
In other words, if you lack secondary sexual characteristics, my brain says you are pre-pubescent, and if I had a penis, it would go all flaccid.
That's not to say that I don't get attracted to transgendered people, as long as they have enough secondary sexual characteristics (associated with any gender, not necessarily their gender at birth) for my brain to see them as ADULTS.
For example, I don't know what gender this is supposed to be, but it's clearly supposed to look like a child of some gender or another, and it needs a sammich:
Pan-sexuality includes the ability to be attracted to people of all, any, or no discernible gender. I love some people who are Pan-Sexual, but I need to see something, of some gender, to indicate it is an adult, and healthy enough for sexual activity, before I can be stimulated by it.
It doesn't mean I don't like people who are androgynous, it just means they don't turn me on, no more so than a heterosexual guy gets turned on by a sexy man.
It's just not the way my brain works.
...And for the love of god, get those bags of antlers some sammiches.
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